Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Public option: Options

Currently there are three options for the public option for health care in the United States.

1. Public Option

2. Trigger Option

3. Opt Out plan

Lets examine these shall we?

1. Everyone gets covered equally, no one gets refused and individuals don't go bankrupt and homeless because of medical debt.

2. A satisfactory option, but only if the company's are given ONE YEAR ONLY to change their practices, and if they are NOT allowed to increase rates in any possible way so they can't sleaze as much money as possible from the public before the government trigger takes effect.

3. No way no how. This means that all the Republican states would go without while unemployment and bankruptcies get higher and higher forcing all the Democrat states to cover their butts.

No more Republican stupid ideas.

Monday, October 26, 2009

If you are asked to remove your veil.... THEN REMOVE YOUR BLOODY VEIL.

This isn't the Middle East, its North America, and HERE women do NOT walk around in public places wearing a veil that hides their faces. Its not about modesty. In fact, it has NOTHING to do with modesty or lack of it.

This is about protection. Both for you and for the businesses you frequent. There has been a great deal of trouble on this continent from Muslims, the biggest being that they (and yes, it was Muslims, no matter how much Muslims deny it, they were just extremists) attacked the United States on September 11, and killed thousands of people by ramming planes into buildings.

Women are NOT exempt from this fear, just because the ones that actually did it are men.

Those veils hide your face, and they hide your body. That means no one can identify you if you do something wrong, or if you are injured somehow. This is very very bad, and it doesn't matter which religion you belong to. For all we know, you have a great big bomb strapped to your chest, or around your neck, thats going to explode and kill us all.

REMOVE YOUR VEIL IF YOU ARE ASKED.

EVERYONE ELSES RIGHT TO LIVE SUPERCEDES YOUR RIGHT TO YOUR RELIGION.

Deal with it and stop whining.

http://www.wfaa.com/sharedcontent/dws/wfaa/latestnews/stories/wfaa091025_wz_coverup.252101bf6.html

Monday, October 19, 2009

The Traditional Family Role

Normally I give my opinion on things rather than share something of my past, but this post will be a bit different, though it is, as per usual, based on something from CNN/Time. This might be long so bare with me.

As you can see, the article I sited as the link in the title is an article about how we all hold on to the 'Traditional Family". So let me tell you what my "Traditional Family" life was like when I was growing up.

I had a father and a mother, of course. My dad worked, my mother stayed home and took care of the home and children. They are both members of the Baby Boom Generation where such things were idealized into things like the television show "Leave it to Beaver". They, as many members of their generation, grew up to want that more than anything in the world.

The only problem is, it never existed.

As I was growing up, my mother worked in the yard building beautiful flower beds for us to play in. We had a garden the size of a small house, and a back yard that was so large, you could fit a total of three of the house that I grew up in, inside it. We always had fresh vegetables and fruit to eat, and my mother canned them in the fall so we never bought out. We used to go into the garden to pick fresh peas and carrots in the summer when we wanted a snack and I rarely ever saw sweets, except on the holidays when my mother gathered my sister and I, and baked so many cookies, cakes, pies, and other sweets that we couldn't eat at the kitchen table for weeks for all the food.

At Christmas, she'd  get us, and (sometimes) some of our friends together, and we'd make homemade ornaments for the Christmas tree (baked and shellacked bread shaped like dough bears for example). On Easter, we'd dye eggs (Ukrainian Easter Eggs one year, that I turned out to be allergic to the dye) and on Easter morning, we'd wake to chocolate and candy eggs hidden all over the house and have candy for weeks. On Halloween, my mother made hand sewn costumes for us, and my dad took us trick or treating.

My mother used to come to our figure skating lessons with us, and at one point got roped into running the music for practice.

It sounds ideal, doesn't it? Only it leaves a great deal out.

For one thing, where exactly was my father in all this? He was working. And he was out with his friends. Most of the time, except when he wanted to eat and sleep (and maybe a few other things from my mother), we never saw him. He wasn't interested in anything we did. He could have been, he had the time, but his friends were more important to him

And then there's the fact that he was an alcoholic. He was also an abuser. Barely a night went by (he came home at 4 and 5 am most nights) when he wasn't drunk, and angry at nothing. The last ten years that they were together, we barely had a night go by when they weren't screaming at each other, throwing things at each other, or my father wasn't doing something like shoving my mother into the wall screaming at her. The neighbors knew this was going on. Family knew this was going on. Heck, even the police knew it. No one ever did anything to help, even when my sister and I called them begging them to come and stop my parents before they killed them. The police were notorious for driving him around the block a few times, and then dropping him back off, because he was their friend (small town).

When they finally split when I was 14, it was a blessing. To this day, my sister and I wish that they had done so years before that. The fighting stopped. There was peace in the house again.

But that only lasted for so long because you see, my mother hadn't worked in 17 years. She had no idea how to even go about starting to do that, never mind actually how to balance a check book and pay bills. My father had done all those things.

She went to work but could only find a part time job. We couldn't pay the mortgage much less have food in the house. And trying to get money from my father was like getting blood from a stone, and she had to find a way to pay a lawyer so the law could force my father to pay for child support. And even then, most months, he missed. Eventually they garnished his wages, but by that time, he owed us $18,000 in back payments and we had been on welfare for two years.

We were forced to move from my childhood home.

When I was 15, I went to work part time in the public library. My mother couldn't afford to pay my way through high school, so I paid it myself (including my prom dress). The rest of my money went to the household, things like buying food and paying for a phone in my house. We never had a car so I never learned how to drive because my father took his with him and we couldn't afford the $480 cost the schools were charging and my mother had never learned.

When I finally graduated school, I was able to start working full time to help pay the bills. By this time, my mother had had a breakdown. I'm the only thing that kept the family together and I was too scared to tell anyone what happened, when she was rocking back and forth on our front step crying her eyes out. She once tried to walk "home" in bare feet, despite the fact that when she said "home", she meant my grandmothers house, over a half hour highways drive away. If I hadn't been there, there's no telling what would have happened. Throughout all this, I was forced to be the adult in the house, and took care of paying the bills (I actually started taking her paycheck at one point, and depositing it after getting her to sign it), took care of the house (I even know how to fix a leaky tap because we couldn't pay for someone to fix it for us), and took care of my little sister (though she probably doesn't remember much of that).

It wasn't until I was fairly into my adulthood that things started to change. She found a full time job, and eventually met my stepdad (whom my sister and I simply adore. A very good former military man, and current policy officer). She died of lung cancer in 2003.

My sister married, and then divorced (lets just say her ex is the worst possible man imaginable and leave it at that). She has a wonderful little boy who is much loved fathered by the douche bag ex husband of hers.

As for me? I'm on my second marriage. The first was with an abusive man. It took alot for me to learn that I didn't have to put up with it just because "Traditional Values" told me that I should. With this second marriage, I don't think I've ever been this happy in my whole life. Its anything but Traditional. I'm a computer geek, and work full time. My husband loves role playing games and also works full time. We are both Liberals and I don't see us having kids.

So this "Traditional Family Life" that everyone reveres? It doesn't exist, and it never did. Its all imaginary.

I'm so tired of the promotion of "traditional family life". You saw what this idiotic idea did to my immediate family, never mind my aunts, uncles, and cousins who had their own oddyssey to go through.

Its time to chart new paths, not wallow in the old.

Thursday, October 15, 2009

The economy is not nearly as bad as people are pretending it is.

I work in the hotel industry and we have been getting our butts kicked for at least a month every day. And I work in a tourist area.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

I'm a little confused.

The United States claims to love its freedoms more than anything. And yet, there is no referendum function so the people can be asked what they want inside their constitution. And yet its something that other first world Democratic countries use all the time.

Seems more like fascism than Democracy to me. The words "of the people by the people" seem to be nothing more than words.

Disappointing. Odd that I had more say in my government in Canada, which is a much more socialist nation than the United States, than the American people have in theirs despite their claims.

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

A simple reply to a commentary on CNN.

John Avlon (click his name to read the link) made a commentary today. As per usual with CNN, whenever something deserves a reply, they don't open it up to comments from the public, and whenever it doesn't (or will stir controversy and hence ratings), they open it up but choose the most odd answers to post.

This commentary is about the extremist "wingnuts" that seem to have become common.

I'd like to say something in reply to what he said in the commentary.

As an immigrant, what I'm seeing in this country is extremely frightening. For years, a policy of fear and anger has been fed by the extremist factions so that its almost become the normal way of life.

Why? Because its being fed not only by politicians, but also by the media who feel it gives them good ratings and hence gives them money. And thats the whole problem with the country. Money is god here, even among those that claim to believe in a god themselves (call them hypocrites like they deserve).

On the internet there is a word for the people you see behaving like this... that word is "troll".

Now most people who have been on the internet for any length of time understand what the term means but for those that don't, I'll explain.

A troll is someone who "trolls for trouble, the way you troll through water in a boat". They are those people that you get the feeling are waiting underneath the bridge to pounce on you and make you miserable. A troll feeds on controversy and anger. They find it maliciously funny when you get upset by what they're saying.

There is only one way to deal with trolls.

Stop feeding them.

While Mr. Avlon says that exposing them to the light will destroy them, he's dead wrong. What needs to be done is for them to disappear back to the fringes they came from. Stop feeding them. The media needs to let them disappear, and stop covering every nasty thing they do. Even more, it needs to denounce this behavior loudly and thoroughly. Instead of devoting so much time to them, they need to start encouraging that we all work together to solve problems.

The media has intense power. They have more power than any person, any group of people, and any country in the world. They have the power to stir feelings and emotions. Now the question is, what emotions and feelings are they stirring. What they're doing right now is stirring all the negative ones just so they can make a buck.

It needs to stop. The media needs to start taking responsibility for their actions. It doesn't matter is you CAN do something as much as if you SHOULD. Is it right to stir hatred? No, of course not. We all know this, but for some reason the media thinks they're exempt, and the politicians encourage it by their own behavior.

Remember the old adage, absolute power corrupts absolutely. The media is becoming as corrupt as the government. There was a time when a good story meant only telling the truth, not spinning it to mean something it doesn't. No longer. Now a good story means pissing people off and stirring the pot.

The wingnuts have become more common because, like trolls that live under bridges, they are being fed and will only get bigger.

If it doesn't stop, we may see a civil war sometime in the future. It wouldn't be the first time. And the anger is slowly reaching the boiling point.

So... the GOP want to hurry on war, but not on taking care of their own people

What the hell?

This is completely insane.

CNN

Are you people crazy?

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

"Special Needs", My Ass

Brace yourself, I'm going to reveal a bit of prejudice of my own, but not for the reasons I imagine you're thinking. I imagine alot of people are pretty angry reading this right now but let me explain before you reply.

When I was a kid, it was school policy that most classes had one child that was "special needs". That one child would usually be quiet and non-disruptive. But then there were those children that needed to be in their own classes and away from the rest of us because they would disrupt our ability to learn, but for some reason, parents and teachers thought it would be more advantageous to this ONE student to disrupt every other students ability to learn by screaming and banging their heads or hands, by throwing things (like their desks), and more.

One boy in particular comes to mind. Frankly, he made me scared of the "special needs" kids for the rest of my life. And not just kids. These are people that don't know their own strength.

So let me explain...

We all have recess in school. Its part of the normal day of a child.

That day it was cold and rainy out and I didn't want to go outside so I snuck back in when the teachers weren't looking. Just to hang out just inside the doors out of the rain (I've never been an outdoor type person). And HE was standing there.

I didn't say anything to him. I barely glanced at him. But he came up to me, grabbed my head by the hair, pushed me to the ground, and started beating my head into the floor. Good thing one of the teachers heard me screaming. It took three grown teachers to pull him off me.

And who got blamed for it? Me. Even though I didn't do anything, they wanted to calm him down and kiss his butt, despite the fact that he nearly hospitalized me. They felt that I should be understanding and tolerant just because he was mentally undeveloped. They said they thought that I must have done something to provoke him. If standing in the corner, looking out the window and ignoring him is provocation, then he shouldn't have been there.

Here's the thing, I never have nor will I ever be, understanding of it. Their genes are a danger to society, and its become more prevalent as time goes on.

Many of these times, these children aren't "developmentally disabled". No, their parents simply let them behave in ways that are not acceptable because they are more concerned with being their kids friends than with making them grow up as useful people. Instead, they drug them, or make excuses for them because "their child doesn't understand".

Here's a hint, if you stopped kissing their butt, they'd learn to understand. If they simply can't understand, then they should be in a special school (or even a special class) created for your child's type instead of forcibly subjecting other kids to your child's behavior.

This has got to stop. There isn't nearly as "developmentally disabled" children as many people would like us to believe. If thats the case, then everyone is "developmentally disabled". The difference is that everyone else's parents MADE their children behave themselves, and stop being lazy spoiled brats. We ALL have to learn to deal with life, kissing your kids butts or drugging them just because they aren't behaving the way you'd prefer isn't the answer.

Incidentally, that boy should never have been in my school with me. He had a history of violence towards others, including him own family. I'm lucky he didn't kill me. I'd have probably been dead if not for those teachers, or at the very least permanently brain damaged.

YOU are to blame for your child's behavior in school, so stop making excuses just so you can be a bad or lazy parent.

I am not supporting destroying all people that are like that, I'm saying that parents need to start taking more responsibility for their own kids behavior and start showing these kids consequences for their behavior.

http://www.kfoxtv.com/news/21211677/detail.html

Monday, October 5, 2009

Who are the Republicans to think they have anything to say

http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2009/10/05/new-gop-ad-hits-deeds-on-remark-to-female-reporter/

Better to be called "young lady", "ma'am" or "miss" than to be called "dear", "honey", or "sweetheart". At least "young lady" is respectful.

The Republicans have no right to say anything considering they think women should be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

There's something wrong when an immigrant is more patriotic to their new country than the people who were born there

Growing up in Canada, you're given the idea by the media that Americans are fanatically loyal to their country, and its people. Movies, books, television, even the internet promote this idea.

Imagine my surprise when I moved to this country only to find out that its anything but what they claim. Or rather, the people are anything but what all the media has claimed it is.

Americans are loyal to this idiotic idea that they've built up in their heads, through many years of brainwashing by one particular party, that the only thing that should matter is money, and power, and that they should do anything they can to get both.

Now thats not say that all Americans are that way, because frankly that would be incredibly stupid. Of course not all Americans are that way.

The problem is that the ones that are just happen to be the vocal minority with pretty much all the power, and they have managed to convince the redneck population (of which there are many, unfortunately) that caring about anyone other than themselves is a bad thing. Here, money appears to be god, and the insane radical Christian right has been suckered into believing that one single party actually believes in what they support.

And myself, as an immigrant to the United States? Well I find this attitude simply despicable and shameful. Frankly, that disturbs me. Not that I find it despicable and shameful, but that I am more loyal to the people of this country than the people born in this country are.

I actually care about what happens to them. I actually care when I see them suffering. Far too many Americans don't seem to care about other members of their country, but only about insane ideals that mean nothing in the end.

Equality and freedom don't come by anarchy. Anarchy simply promotes injustice because there is no one to stop it. No, equality and freedom come by working together. They seem to have forgotten the first paragraph of words in the Constitution they hold so dear.

"We the people of the United States, in order to form a more perfect union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America."

The words "we" and "union" are in there somewhere. Nowhere does it talk about how the people of the country should be fighting amongst each other. No, it talks about a union. Unions are about people working together for the common good, not about promoting screwing other people over to get as much as you can for yourself.

Lets remember "domestic tranquility" is in there. Does it seem to you that this country is full of domestic tranquility? Or is a certain party promoting fighting with each other every chance they get. I believe they've recently begun to be called "teabaggers", though thats only one term. Versus another party thats promoting actually taking care of other people, for everyones benefit.

Do you remember what this is about? Do you remember that government isn't the enemy? The Founding Fathers did not create government just so that you'd have something to fight. They created it to try to make sure everyone couldn't screw each other over.

The United States people have become exactly what the country was created to avoid. Corrupt, greedy, and feeding on itself. You must stop. If you don't, it will destroy you. You will destroy yourselves.

Don't you remember why people left Europe to settle in the United States? To escape exactly the behaviors you are currently promoting. To escape religious persecution for ALL religions, not just one. To escape the top (usually royalty) ruling over the bottom with an iron fist that often meant death. Yes, the circumstances are slightly different now, but not by that much. Only the method is different, not the result.

This country must unify if it is to survive. Not to the point of insanity, but to the point that it stops eating itself alive.